I have found that adversity is only as big as you allow it to be. Lately I have found myself spiritually, mentally, and physically drained. Truly it’s a combination of work, coaching, and life itself. During these past weeks of lent I did something I hadn’t done in years. I committed all my driving time and morning routine to complete silence. Well besides the static noise coming from my messed-up speakers, which I found very annoying, but even with that I learned to tune that out and just listen. I listened to the birds chirping, the car’s engine, the wind blowing, my thoughts drifting, and most importantly I listen to someone far within me. It has been said that through the midst of silence we find introspection with God and our self. I found just that. So, today’s blog I thought I would share some of my methods and advice when facing adversity. As a blogger, most of my pictures depict only the “good sides” of my life, however I’m very much human and I go through some lows like anyone else does, so here’s my advice to you.
1. Have Faith and Pray
Sometimes I find it very difficult to find the right words to pray, but when I set aside my pride and wants I allow God to move me in his direction. I have never gotten anything handed to me. I have had to work very hard for everything I have earned today and I find that as blessings in disguise. When I pray, I don’t pray for my adversities to be easy or gone, I pray for the strength and audacity to get through them. I use prayer to talk to God and through prayer I find trust and hope in him with whatever path he has paved for me. I know it’s a lot easier to say then do, but with constant prayer you will start to see your problems only as a speck of rain.
2. View Problems as Possibilities
I don’t know how many “no’s” I have had in my life, but each one has helped me find creative solutions to building a stronger and wiser person. You have two ways to face adversity, one; as if you have been defeated or two; fight back. I remember earlier this year when I had to face a huge disappointed and my hardest no as a professional. I had work very hard throughout the years all while expecting nothing and when I finally had the opportunity to apply for something I tremendously thought I had earned I felt a sense of discouragement. I remember thinking “WOW, to think that my work ethics and hard work would be seen and speak for itself. Didn’t.” I started to question whether I should even continue to take on roles and responsibilities since it seemed like it wasn’t being acknowledged. Now I’ll be the first to say that I do most of my volunteered work behind the scenes and that’s where I’d rather be. However, after prayer and a little venting I saw this in a different perspective. I notice the endless possibilities of continuing what I was good at. I almost forgot the real reason behind doing what I love to do. It was never about me; it was and will always be about serving God where and when he needs me. In God’s timing, you will find different possibilities if you continue to have heart and effort.
3. Calm and Collect Your Emotions
If I could literally say what I was feeling right now or at moments when I’m face with adversity or people I probably wouldn’t be where I am today. You see when you face problems your actions reflect the person you are. I have learned that I have a God who is a lot bigger than anyone or anything that tries to tear me down. At times, I contemplate on whether I should say what I feel, but I learned that there’s a place and time to do so. Give yourself time to reflect about what it is that you are upset about and always remember to act righteously and with grace. You will always be at an upper hand when you act like the bigger person in a dilemma. I honestly wish I could say that the older you get the easier it is and the less problems you have. Unfortunately you still deal with childish behavior from people and undermined situations. You must learn that you can’t control every situation, but you can control your mind and your attitude. So, don’t stress over things you can’t control. Things that help me include:
- Writing (hence this blog post)
- Reading scriptures
- Surprisingly cleaning, I know weird huh?
I guess what I’m trying to say overall is don’t let adversity or people stray you from the course you have been following. Always stand tall and act with such grace. Surround yourself with a supportive community and know that it’s normal to feel angry or upset. Just always remember to have a voice of reason to reminder you to pray, see your problems as possibilities, and calm your emotions.
Okay, so now for the people who are visiting this page because you saw my dress, don’t worry I got you too! LOL. This dress is NOT currently available, however I thought I would share a couple of my favorite Palm print dresses that are. I wore this dress out during spring break on St. Patrick’s Day and I got a lot of compliments. This palm print dress is surely going to be overused this summer. Don’t judge, I love this palm print and I know you do too!! Whether you stopped by for advice or simply for #ootd inspiration I hope you found this post helpful! Thank you for stopping by and don’t forget to follow me on Pinterest and Facebook. Hey, we can even chat on Instagram. Come find me or comment below!
Gianni Bini Dress (out of stock) / Similar Palm Print dress
God Bless You Always!
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trails of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete.